Sadie McMaster
BDSM educator, consent and safety advocate, event organizer, and sensual sadist based in Western New York.
I create spaces where kink, curiosity, and consent meet. From first-time munch attendees to seasoned players, my work focuses on safety, boundaries, and building communities where we can explore intensely, negotiate clearly, and take care of one another.
About Sadie
My kink journey is grounded in curiosity, consent, and an honest love of sensation. Impact, energy exchange, and the alchemy of pain into pleasure are my native languages.
Diverse sensual experiences, including the transfer of pain into sexual ecstasy, a community of acceptance, and a lifestyle rooted in consent, are a few of the things that drew me to BDSM. I began my lifestyle journey over a decade ago at a wonderful dungeon in Philadelphia, PA, and never really looked back.
Since then I have traveled extensively, visiting the brothels of Blackpool, England, and attending dungeons and festivals across the East Coast of the USA and Canada—learning, growing, and gaining experience along the way.
I am an independent journalist, educator, performance artist, and event organizer. While I love impact play, I have developed an unexpected affection for the Violet Wand. My approach to play is integrated: the ecstasy of the impact is just as important as the connection and energy exchange happening at the same time.
Influenced by Eastern medicine, Tantra, and energy work, I strive to be my authentic self and to engage fully with everyone I meet. I am as diverse a person as my mixed ethnicity suggests.
I speak French poorly, but I love my immersion visits to Montréal. A love of Early Music and Renaissance faires led to an obsession with all things Irish (Great Big Sea!). I am as comfortable on stage bellydancing as I am on the back of a dog sled.
Born and bred in the Canadian-influenced city of Buffalo, NY, I currently live in the WNY area, drink my beer from the bottle, and live in quiet fear of being forced to drive vehicles with an automatic transmission.
Teaching & Classes
My classes blend realism, risk-awareness, and a lot of permission to be human. We talk about what actually happens in scenes, in relationships, and in our nervous systems, not just what looks good on a checklist.
- Consent frameworks: SSC, RACK, and beyond.
- Kink boundaries for both tops and bottoms.
- Negotiation skills, red flags, and repair.
- Impact play basics, safety, and aftercare.
- Energy, intention, and headspace in play.
- Community etiquette: from munch to dungeon.
Hire Me to Teach
I am available for classes, workshops, and discussion-based intensives for:
- Local and regional kink events.
- Private groups and house parties.
- Online communities and education platforms.
Class list: A current class list, with descriptions and requirements, is available on request.
Please email me at sadiemcmaster28@gmail.com to request the full list, discuss custom topics, or inquire about availability and rates.
Real Kink Events & Metro Munch
Community is where consent, safety, and boundaries get practiced in real time. I help hold spaces where kinksters can meet, learn, and explore without having to pretend they are anything other than who they truly are.
Real Kink Events
Real Kink Events is my event arm in Buffalo, NY, and the greater Western New York area. Think munches, socials, classes, and more, with a focus on:
- Inclusive, consent-focused environments.
- Clear expectations, rules, and safety culture.
- Room for skill-sharing, curiosity, and play.
Metro Munch on Skool
I also run the Metro Munch series, a collection of meetups that make it easier to dip a toe into the local kink scene.
You can find Real Kink Events and Metro Munch on Skool here:
Project MoriKai
Project MoriKai is my dark-fiction, soft-spoken ASMR story channel—a place for jealous girlfriends, obsessive devotion, and deliciously intense fantasy, held inside clear, adult-only boundaries.
Soft-Spoken Dark Fiction & Yandere-Flavored Stories
As the creator of Project MoriKai, I write and voice soft-spoken stories that lean into dark romance, possessive devotion, and yandere-inspired dynamics. Expect:
- Whispered, intimate storytelling and ASMR-style delivery.
- Obsessive, over-the-top affection in a clearly fictional space.
- Jealous girlfriends, clingy lovers, and dramatic emotional stakes.
- Structured “tease and deny” tension that stays fantasy-only.
Each piece is crafted as an immersive audio experience—ideal for listeners who enjoy dark, intense emotional fantasy paired with a soothing voice, steady pacing, and plenty of atmosphere.
Fantasy-Only, Consent-Rooted
While the stories may explore themes like control, obsession, and degradation in a yandere style, they remain firmly in the realm of fiction. I treat MoriKai as an extension of my consent and safety work:
- Content is for adults only, and is labeled as fantasy.
- Listeners are reminded that real-world D/s requires mutual respect, negotiation, and care.
- Dark themes are framed as play, not as templates for real relationships.
If you enjoy the mix of cozy ASMR cadence, dark fiction, and intense feelings—without losing sight of real-life safety—you will likely feel right at home with MoriKai.
Watch, listen, and subscribe here:
Consent, Safety, & Boundaries
Kink is only worth it if we can wake up the next day with our bodies, our nervous systems, and our communities intact. My work is grounded in honest conversations about risk, responsibility, and reality.
I teach and model consent as an ongoing conversation, not a one-time waiver. That includes:
- Clear negotiation, in plain language, without pressure.
- Room for “no,” “not yet,” and “I changed my mind.”
- Check-ins before, during, and after scenes.
- Respect for limits, boundaries, and deal-breakers.
Fantasy can be as dark, rough, and delicious as you like; reality still requires care, conscience, and accountability.
I encourage people—tops, bottoms, and switches—to become personal peace protectors:
- Knowing your boundaries before you negotiate.
- Recognizing manipulation, love-bombing, and red flags.
- Building support systems outside any one partner or dynamic.
- Prioritizing aftercare, integration, and ongoing reflection.
No scene, no title, and no dynamic is worth sacrificing your safety, sanity, or self-respect.
Contact & Booking
Ready to discuss a class, event, or collaboration? Let’s talk details, expectations, and boundaries first, then decide together whether it is a fit.
For teaching inquiries, event bookings, interviews, or collaborations:
- Your name and pronouns.
- Whether you’re reaching out as an individual, group, or event.
- Location (city, country, online platform).
- Dates or timeframe you have in mind.
- What you are hoping to learn, practice, or create together.